Thursday, June 10, 2010

aaaallll aboard... next stop, adoption town!

ok... i'll admit it, my last post was a wee-bit on the woe-is-me side. i neglected to mention that we are in the middle of remodeling our bathroom so i have been "showering" (i use that term loosely) out of the kitchen sink for far too long. its making me a tad edgy. not to mention that we have been searching for a new toilet for like 2 months and cant seem to find one that wont require us to buy a step stool to climb on the damn thing!!

*stepping onto my soapbox*

if you have had the fortune of shopping for a toilet lately you might have noticed that almost every single one brags about being "comfort height". "comfort height" typically means that it is "chair height" or between 16 and 19 inches off the ground. naturally, since the average US woman is around 5 feet 4 inches tall, this whole "comfort height" business is little more than a tool of patriarchy. when MOST american women sit on a 17 inch toilet, their feet will barely touch the floor. now i aint no scientist but last time i checked, this position isnt exactly optimal deuce-dropping position. in fact, i think that "feet off the ground" comes in second only to "pooping while standing on your head". so, you can imagine my face when the agents-of-plumbing-patriarchy (aka homes depots workers) try to convince us to buy a "comfort height" toilet. if it wasnt for the hot dog stand outside in the parking lot, i might not have the strength to refrain from clawing their face off. i mean GOD FORBID men have to squat a little in order to sit on a lower toilet. *deep breath*

*stepping off the soapbox*

anywhoo... the point is that this whole bathroom remodel has diminished my level of patience. a few nights of sleep and a few really good conversations later, im feeling much better. and much more hopeful and much more excited.

cliff notes version: NM and i have decide to move forward with adoption. after 2 generous donations/loans from my mom and from 2 dear friends in town... we have the necessary funds to start our process. i would love to spend some time processing my feelings about the donations but i still cant really wrap my mind around it all without crying so ill wait for another post to address how amazing our friends and family are. seriously. i know you might think that your friends and family rock... but let me set the record straight and say that our community could TOTALLY kick your community's ass!

(it is now dawning on me that hyper-competition and threats of ass-kicking aren't really in line with the whole "community" spirit. im from jersey so aggression is our default love language. im learning and im sure your community is cool too.)

i digress...

the point is that we are back on the adoption train and the next stop is my first individual interview tomorrow morning. *fingers crossed* that i dont manage to find a way to get us kicked out of the agency. as long as she doesn't bring up "comfort height" toilets... i should be fine.


  1. congrats! I am so excited to hear about your journey. W and I are definitely going to adopt at some point, and I would be interested to hear about your experience. Are you going through a private agency or DSS/DCF? When you get the mental and emotional space, I would love to hear more about it!

  2. I'm really glad you guys are able to move ahead with the adoption. Congratulations on moving on to the next step!

    (Oh, and hello! I've been lurking for a bit, but this seemed like the right time to de-lurk.)

  3. Congratulations! I'm so excited you making this exciting move forward! I'm glad you were able to borrow the money. We shamelessly borrow/accept donations to fund our ttc's just money, right?

    Good luck - I hope the baby is in your arms faster than you can imagine.

  4. that is really exciting and yeah, your community totally rocks. i'm sure you deserve every bit of their love and support too.

    good luck with the adoption process and the toilet hunt. keep us posted!

  5. woooot!! i want to hear more about this! we need to vid chat or something someday. isa is concerned about Billie Jean. lol Let's talk soon and I'm so excited for you and the missus.

    p.s. you think YOU'RE too short for a "comfort height" toilet? Remember how I'm like 19 inches shorter than you? Damn dudes. They ruin EVERYTHING!

  6. Hi.

    Me again. I truly think the Cadet toilets made by American Standard are a thing of beauty! They flush well for a 6L toilet, they're moderately priced, and I've had no problems with them so far (knock porcelain).